He is selfish and shows no affection for me. 3 Glaring Challenges of Divorcing a Spouse With Mental Illness - Marriage My wife works commission base in medical field and she is a master manipulator. Cant sleep without sleeping pills or wine. He insisted I shouldnt go. You might feel like youre on an island all by yourself, but thats not true. I am also working on it. I was lonely for a friend, a companion, a co-pilot and a lover to share the rest of my life with. The important thing here is that you find someone who can make you feel good again. Part of the reason was because he was working too much and I was left to take care of the children while dealing with my emotional issues. ? He had no good reason and said we dont like the same things which made no sense to me at all. We all do. Soooo I look like this demise is my fault, because I wasnt invested in our marriage. Me finding pills over and over hidden in her car. Individuals who lost 5 percent of their body weight over the course of four years were more likely to feel depressed . He wants to have a better paying job, to provide for us better, and he cant seem to do that having us here, so he is sending me, along with our daughter, and my 2 sons packing. A relationship is made of two people that are ready and willing to be a team. Research has also found that of the couples who felt their marriage was in serious danger of ending but who stayed the course anyway, over 80+ percent of them wound up feeling very glad that they didnt get divorced. Then my wife was charged with felonies 2 for fraud and 1 for forgery.. in 2015 she switch to alcohol now she has driven me and our kids out of the house to my parents I am biblical and believe I cannot get a divorce because what the Bible says. I sleep and eat baflt. She never wanted to make it more difficult then it already was for her children. I know this awful feeling so well. Hes a selfish man who was only thinking about himself and is in crisis. Thank you for sharing. I actually became suicidal because I was so worried about what I . Not looking for any comments just felt a need to write that lot down. Wow, that sucks.feel terrible that you have to go through that especially when youve been so patient with all of her disabilities. To make it all worse, I had no idea. Then the on the Wednesday he told me he was leaving. And if you talk to them about it, they might be able to help you get through it faster. Doesn't Care. The obvious answer is he is sleeping with the friend. I have no control over their daily lives with her I can only be thankful her parents are so actively involved in her life which she has thus far been able to suck the life out of them to the point I dont think they will last much longer. No, Im not saying that you need to forget all that happened. a train when It stops you only have two choices get off and get on another train or stay on and go in reverse. Very true . it will come . I have divorced my wife, with no ill will. You might want to file a complaint against her to freeze your money before you get that back. Its a behavioral condition Something. I have other kids from a previous relationship and I felt saddened by it all at first. my wife just left me refused to talk or tell our two children and left it all to me in the midst of all my anger and hurt this has caused my kids to completely disown their mother even thou I have asked and beg them to have contact and an on going relationship with her . Is Your Relationship Making You Sick? - Mental Help With only being a year apart. You will overcome. Failure to touch. I feel no small amount guilt for feeling relief at her leaving. cheat ,refuse to except your responabillity dont come crying when the shit hits the fan and nobody wants nothing to do with you .I love my kids still love my wife and will do anything to make their live good I wish her all the best with the new man but fear , a relationship built on lies and deceit is a disaster waiting to happen .Good luck to all who have been cheated on I wish you all the happiness you can find be strong and trust in yourself , trust me nobody but you can make this better so walk with head held high feel proud that you didnt sink to their level best of luck one mightily piss off deserted husband. If you are married and these things happen, underlying all of it, if there is a commitment to stay the course, and do the work to overcome these sorts of issues, couples can come back from all sorts of problems. I did everything I could with her and for her and for us with the hope, the dream that we would be together the rest of our lives. Its also a safe space where you can be vulnerable and honest with them. These are really dated terms. The common age seems to be women in their mid thirties. 6 months ago my wife of 6 years been together now going on 9 years looks over at me and says she doesnt know if she wants to be married anymore. It is amazing how they completely changed. I am now literally in a living hell. Well the next week she filed a pfa against me to leverage her getting the kids half time and support paying child support. Then it was time for us. This story was written by Niamh Tracey of Dublin, Ireland. It doesnt take much, all it takes is a little time and effort to help you get through this hard time. We are separated now for 6 months. Military will have his butt for Infidelity. Loyalty, infidelity, honesty. Im not sure, I was available to him for conversation,I very rarely went out because I work multiple jobs simultaneously, take care of the kids and the house. very true. Had to move out of my house as his business is next door. He also sleeps in another room if I pursue him or attempt to resolve anything or he leaves the house. My husband told me he's not happy- please help! He finally said that he had met someone but that this person had nothing to do his decision was made. Character counts, have some standards that you are not willing to make exceptions on. What a way to throw a wrench in! I am sorry I implied anything else regarding that. I wish I could meet one of these women in here going through all this pain and sweep them off their feet. But the truth is that hating him just isnt the best way to go. When I have been upset and called to to him he has been very cold and mean.telling me he hated being in a relationship with hated being a family and so on. How could he just walk out? Awful. Im being civil about it becuase of my son but it hurts everytime I see him. Why do this horrific act?? Of course, you work. It would of been 10 years of marriage this year. I still find myself wanting her back, I miss her. I do not believe that you can just fall out of love one day as if it is completely unrelated to how each of the partners interacts with one another. Anyway, I know it takes time. The relationship causes you to feel bad about yourself, both before, during and after being together. I can not have sex with s man who lets his children disrespect me and think everything is alright. 5 years ago I started to discover and figure out that my wife was a substance abuser,drug addict with prescription meds, narssasis, pathological liar. My break up was a combination of factors above and under each one Andra (the author) has captured the essence. I told myself I was going to focus on my health, going to workout again & eat right. I am caught between being committed to get through the bad stuff to get to the good stuff and being tired of all the conflict and chaos. He said he left because of lack of communication and the fact that I wasnt listening to him about his health. I will follow this for now. Everyone says time. My name is Jon,and a few weeks ago when my wife and i were celebrating our birthdays in Chicago,she told me that she was leaving me and moving to California to live with some guy she met on the internet.My wife sufers from Fibromyalgia,depression. We have always gotten along great,In every way,always had fun together.The good times outnumber the bad. And still couldnt find a way to be happy. I loved him dearly and I still do, I had resentment built up because he didnt always treat me the best. He states he has not talked to the other women since I found out and that it was completely over when he left the first time. I now tell her I wont come over anymore and space away for her when she wont even consider spending even an hour of her time with us. Nobody is perfect but there have to be certain things that will be most important to you. 5. It's even cited as one of the events that often trigger a bout of depression in the first place. Heather omg I read your article you wrote and this is so real I honestly wish I had that support from you Im 26 years old with 2 kids and my life has been hurtful and heartbreaking within my relationship I dont want to drag a long story out but I recently got married in Jan and my husband just left me with no explanation in 2 months of our marriage but I have some proof on my end. We had a good but quiet weekend. God wants HIS values to be lived out, more than our temporary satisfaction and happiness. Of course, feelings change over the course of a marriageyou are not going to have those sparks flying like you did when you first met. When she does she simply says she doesnt want to be married anymore. Found a great new home development where he knew the builder and was talking with the builder about the possibility of a few lots that would become available. No one warned me that the "change of life" meant that I would be at war with my own body . He says they have not had sex but it is an emotional affair just as bad or worse! I worked 2 jobs for 5 of our 7 years to put him through school. A lot of times people will stay in an unhappy relationship until they meet someone new that gives them motivation to finally leave. I work full time and take care of everything in the house. She refuses to put in any real effort with the kids too, guess that comes as no surprise as you really have to be that way to have done THAT to them. She said that she is doing this out of love because she cant fully give herself to me. Now I can begin to say, after roughly four months, that things are feeling better within me, but many things must be done with in our own for our own to fully heal. Well, he left on an extended work trip overseas a couple weeks later and completely disconnected. The next day he told me that he did not want it to continue in a relationship with me. You deserve better . I know Id feel better getting my stuff together lol. Acting normal at home. She is 39 and I am 50. He worked days. We had some issues but always thought we would work them out. She returns for a few days. Maybe there were reasons you didnt want to put energy and time into the relationship, or perhaps you felt like it was your partners job as much as yours.